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Thursday, May 13, 2010

Dating As an Institution

You've all heard the sage advice...make dating an institution in your life, even after you are married!

Ian and I totally agree with this statement, in theory, but were too poor for the last year or so to make it more than a monthly/bimonthly event.

Now that we are "settling," in, ie a full time job, a home where our parents don't also live, and a dependable (albeit teeny tiny,) paycheck, we decided to make a commitment to "dating," each other again on a weekly basis.

We thought that the weekend would be a good time to try to stick to, but after realizing that the Arab world has a different weekend than the Western world (I believe we'll have "off," on Friday and Saturday, which is the UAE weekend, but we'll be living in Oman which has a Thursday-Friday weekend, weird huh?) we realized that we wanted to start getting ourselves prepared for that lifestyle, so we are trying Monday nights as date nights.

It's a good night for us, because Mondays are usually so depressing and hard anyways, so its been nice to have something to look forward to without tying up our weekends!

Two weeks in and so far so good! It feels really great to drop everything, get out of the house, and spend time with my husband. This week was a double date with our friends, and we ate at a cafe and saw Iron Man II (which was great!)

I can't wait to see what else we get to do together this summer and to see how date night will look when we get to the UAE!


Amy said...

We have date night every week here too! For us it is a bit different. Wednesdays after the kids are in bed we stop everything (no laundry, no dishes, no computer) and just spend time together. Since going out is expensive and we have to pay a babysitter too we only do that once a month. Hope you guys have good date nights-and be creative! Dating doesn't have to cost you a fortune.

Lindsey said...

I want to see Iron Man 2, glad to hear it was good!

Callie Nicole said...

Good for you guys! Derek and I need to get better at having regular date nights, even if it's just a walk down our road and dinner on the porch or something. It's so hard when things get so busy, but it should be important anyway!

Chloƫ said...

going to the zoo makes a fun and fairly inexpensive date! :)

Jessica said...

I totally agree in dating, even after you are married. In fact, I look forward to a date with Luke so much MORE now that we're married than before. I think it's because back before we were married, we went on dates a lot more, since we didn't live together. Now it is a real treat when we purposely set aside time to go out, just for some QT together. Great post! So weird about the weekends, too!

Lauren said...

Oh how great for you & your hubby! I love date night!

Ashley said...

that is a really great idea..i always love it when we do date nights and it is good to make it a weekly thing :)

Katie said...

I agree that dating is definitely good for your marriage! I think making Mondays date night is a great idea!! I wish I knew something about the Middle East I could help you think of cheap(er) date night options!